When and How to Take a Mental Health Day

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Sometimes taking a mental health day—a day off that’s specifically geared toward stress relief and burnout prevention—is the best thing you can do for yourself. While one day might not solve heavy underlying problems that lead to burnout, a mental health day can provide a much-needed break to pause, regroup, and come back with greater levels of energy and a …

What Is Narrative Therapy?

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Narrative therapy is a style of therapy that helps people become—and embrace being—an expert in their own lives. In narrative therapy, there is an emphasis on the stories we develop and carry with us through our lives. As we experience events and interactions, we give meaning to those experiences and they, in turn, influence how we see ourselves and our …

How to Be a Strength Based Parent

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By focusing on our children’s strengths, we can help them flourish—and stop being so critical and worried. My stomach knotted as I came home after a long day at work to find my fifteen-year-old son Nick playing “Fortnite.” Again. Just yesterday, I’d spoken with him (read: snapped at him) about screen time. Today, an argument began. Again. He felt angry. …

All About Anxiety

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Anxiety is a feeling of nervousness, unease, or worry that typically occurs in the absence of an imminent threat. It differs from fear, which is the body’s natural response to immediate danger. Anxiety is part of the body’s natural reaction to stress, so it can be helpful at times, making you more alert and ready for action. Anxiety disorders and …

How to Be Happy

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Behavioral scientists have spent a lot of time studying what makes us happy (and what doesn’t). We know happiness can predict health and longevity, and happiness scales can be used to measure social progress and the success of public policies. But happiness isn’t something that just happens to you. Everyone has the power to make small changes in our behavior, …

Envy is the dark side of love, but love is the luminous side

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My best friend in high school was tall, lean and pretty. She had a long neck and luscious dark hair, alabaster skin punctuated by a constellation of beauty marks, and a teeth gap that she flaunted before it was fashionable. She was funny and fierce, smart but not particularly diligent, and more self-assured than me in matters of romance and …

How to Be Mindful Every Day of the Week

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Got a minute? That’s enough time to generate meaningful action every day of the week. Sometimes opportunities to act with mindful intention fall into your lap: the politeness jam at the four-way intersection, when everyone wants to let the other guy go first; the earnest admission from someone that moves you to respond in kind. But, let’s face it, barring …

‘It’s part of being human’: the Canadian project to destigmatize loneliness

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A Toronto designer’s online platform showcases experiences of people all over the world, aiming to destigmatise the topic The screen shows a cluster of apartment buildings, some of them empty, some with the figure of a person silhouetted against the window. Click on an apartment and a story pops up on screen. “I spent two hours alone, wandering around an …

The Surprising Psychological Benefits of Music

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Listening to music can be entertaining, but is it possible that it might make you healthier? Music can be a source of pleasure and contentment, but research has also shown that there are many different psychological benefits as well. The notion that music can influence your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors probably doesn’t come as much of a surprise. If you’ve …

Stop racing. You’ll still get there just as quickly

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Racing to get a task completed generally imposes a cost that outweighs the benefit, so you may end up completing it later, or doing it worse. Pleasingly, a new study endorses one of my favourite insights about writing, or getting any creative work done – though I’m pretty sure that wasn’t intentional, since the researchers were actually studying traffic jams. …